【FULL】A Love For Dilemma EP18 | 小舍得 | Song Jia 宋佳, David Tong 佟大为, Rulu Jiang 蒋欣, Jean 李佳航 | iQiyi
[English subtitles are available] [A Love for Dilemma] [Sponsored by Shanghai Cultural Development Foundation] [Culture & Art Salon] [Episode 18] Who will pick up your child? Who will bring you breakfast? Enough. Stop worrying. I called Xia Jun Shan. He’ll pick up Huan Huan today.
The most important thing for you now is to take care of your body. You are saying as if we can’t function without you. Give it a try then. You really can’t function without me. Okay. Fine. -It’s painful, right? -Yes. You can’t do anything now. You can’t move. -Okay. How is it? -No. You…
-The blanket is too thick. Remove it. -The blanket is too warm, right? Yes. It’s so uncomfortable. Pillow. -What’s wrong with the pillow? -Put it down for me. Slowly, Mum. -We are almost there. -Take your time. Slow down. -Okay. I’ll slow down. -Are you okay, Mum? -I’m scared. -It’s okay. We’ll reach home soon.
-You’ll be fine. -Okay. We are here. -We have to lift her up, right? -Yes. -Don’t drop me. -Be careful not to tug on her hair. One, two, three, up. -It’s okay, Mum. Be careful. -I’m scared. I’ll open the door. Hurry up. Okay. Slowly. Okay. Slowly. -This way. Thank you. -Thank you.
I’ll leave now. Try not to leave the bed. -Okay. Thank you. -Okay. Be careful. -Thank you. Bye. -Bye. Here. Let’s change our shoes. I’ll mop the floor later. Huan Huan’s mum and dad. I’ve tidied up the room according to her preference. And I’ve already dried the bedding. She likes it.
Thank you for the hard work. Go back now. You have to cook for Mi Tao too. -It’s okay. Just a while. -It’s okay. She has us now. -Yes. Go now. -Go. -I’ll get going then. Bye. -Bye. -Are you sure this is fine? -Mum.
Go to the main bedroom. This room is too small and dim. If it’s dim, I can turn on the lights. Li Li. I better go back to my own place. -I feel more at ease there. -Mum, the situation is different now. Just bear with it. Be good. Moreover,
It’s easier for us to take care of you here. We don’t have to go back and forth. Don’t worry. Li Li and I and hire a nanny to take care of you daily. For now, just rest. But what about your children? Both of you are so busy. You have to work.
I’m not that busy in my firm. If I have a family emergency, I just have to tell my director about it. That’s not good. It’ll affect you badly. It won’t. Well. Since it’s different this time, can you ask your mum to help you out?
Don’t worry, Mum. Li Li and I can handle this. We can handle this. Time to change your nail polish. I’m not in the mood for nail polish. We had already agreed on the renovation materials and qualities. There’ll be a problem if you change them now. How about this. Send an email
To the Marketing Department and make a carbon copy for me and the district manager. Okay. Do that as soon as possible. -You are still working? -Yes. I was having a meeting at the home furnishing store during the day. But I had to bail halfway because of the call from the hospital.
Is that home furnishing store going to operate soon? We are busy getting everything ready now. We have so many things to do. I’m in charge of customer service but I’m like the thousand-hands Bodhisattva. You are a high-class worker. Here. I’ve ordered a week’s worth of food online.
We have frozen dumplings and wontons and fresh vegetables like tomatoes, potatoes and onions. We don’t have to worry about this week’s food. Here you go. Let’s find a night nursery for Chao Chao. We can pick him up after our work. What about Huan Huan? Send her to nursery too?
She’s in the fifth grade. She’s a big girl now. She should be able to go to school by herself. Of course not. I’ll be worried about her. It’s quite safe here. Besides, Zi You has been travelling to and fro from school all by himself. It’s always wise to play safe.
Besides, girls and boys are different. Let’s find her a night nursery too then. One that can take older children. Then, Huan Huan will have to face unfamiliar teachers again. I’ve had enough with Ze Shu. It won’t be long. We can handle it. Let’s not make it hard for the children.
This afternoon, my mum asked you to let your mum help us out. Don’t mind her. I won’t. Chao Chao is asleep? Yes. Took me a long time. He fell asleep on our bed. Huan Huan has lots of homework tonight. Let’s see if she’s done. Baby. -Are you done with your homework? -Yes.
Come. Let me check. What happened? This paper is the same as yesterday’s. Just that the numbers are different. Why are there still so many mistakes? -I don’t know. -How can you not know? You did it. Come. Let’s analyse the questions one by one. Come. These are just simple calculations.
What is 29 plus 34? -Sixty-three. -What did you write then? Look at that question. It’s the same, right? Have you done your calculation summary today? I’m asking you. -No. -Why didn’t you do it? The calculation is a basic skill. You have to master it.
Didn’t I tell you to do your calculation summary every day? Let’s stop with this for now. Take out your book. Hurry up and take out your book. Hurry up! It’s not that you can’t read comics. I will allow you to read comics. But first, you have to finish your homework.
You don’t have lots of homework today. If you finish it, you’ll have time to read comics, right? Come. Hurry up. I’ll time you. -What do you want? -I want to drink water? Didn’t you drink water after dinner? -Where’s your water bottle? -In the bag. Hurry up. Li Li. What do you want again?
-I want to go to the toilet. -Hold it! Stop wasting time. Do your homework now! Your precious daughter made you mad? Didn’t you say it yourself? Sometimes, Math Olympiad is very anti-human. Don’t be impatient. Take it slow. This is not about Math Olympiad. Huan Huan is usually quite sensible.
But she’ll always procrastinate when it comes to doing homework. She’s like a lazy donkey. You said it yourself. If others say that about your daughter, you’ll fight them to death. You must be hungry from being mad. I’ll cook some noodles for you later. I’m actually hungry. My brain is hurting from being mad.
Did you see the news? There are parents who had to do heart bypass surgery because of their children. Can you don’t curse me? Be calm. Baby. Time to wake up. Hurry up. We are going to be late. Hurry up. Wake up. Son. Wake up. Hurry up. Get up, son. Hurry up.
Huan Huan. Remember to drink more milk to grow taller. Where’s your brother? He’s in his room. He refuses to wake up. -We are going to be late. -Leave him to me. -Go and comb Huan Huan’s hair. -Okay. I’ll drop them off later. -Just take care of mum. -Okay. You naughty kid.
Your dad’s technique is bad. Get up. Get up now. Let’s go. Let’s poop, okay? Just simply comb it. -I’ve put face wash outside of mum’s room. -Okay. Okay. Take off your pants. Sit down. Okay. Let me see. You are awake now. Mum, are you awake? Time to wash your face.
Did you sleep well? Mum, I’m done! -Just leave him to me. -Okay. Wake. Come. We are going to be late. Hurry up. Hurry up, baby. Or else, later… -I want my grandma. -Son. Hurry up and get up. I’m sorry. Chao Chao. You can cry if you are still in bottom-class.
Why are you still crying in middle-class? Maybe it’s a sensitive period for him now. Get up now or we’ll be late. Hurry. I don’t want to go. -We’ll be late. -I want my grandma. How is it today? -Is your waist still in pain? -[I’m fine today.] [It’s not as serious as yesterday.]
Have you eaten your lunch? [Yes.] Is it to your liking? [Not bad.] If you are saying not bad, then, it must be quite good. [We’ll go home earlier after work today.] I’m fine. Don’t let me affect your work. [Work is important but you are important too.]
We are not so busy lately. Don’t worry. [A lot of fans have asked me to put on traditional Chinese clothing for my cat.] -Change your shoes and check on grandma. -Okay. -You are back. -Hello. Has she eaten? She ate these for lunch. -Okay. -Grandma, I’m back! You are already back?
It’s Friday today. It’s half-day, right? Mum, do you feel okay this morning? Not bad. Is the food tasty? -Not bad. -That’s good. Huan Huan, you know what homework you have, right? I have to finish my homework from Ze Shu. I’m reminding you because I don’t want you to forget.
Mr. Xu will check it tomorrow. Okay. Don’t worry. Go back to your room to do homework now. Don’t disturb grandma. -Okay. Bye. -Bye. Mum, if there’s nothing else, I’ll have to leave now. It’s my lunch hour now. Li Li will pick Chao Chao up. They’ll be back before five.
Both of you are like busy beavers. It’ll badly affect your work, right? -It’s okay. Don’t use your phone too much. -Okay. It’s me. I want to know. How much is it per month over there? It’s 5,500? Do you know that it’s just 4,800 here? Besides, I have a hard time here.
He has more books now. Let your children fall in love with studying without needing to shout. Be the best parents. The six keys to raising a child well. This is raising a well-behaved child without needing to shout. Good parents are better than good teachers. Looks like it’s getting worse. So unacceptable.
And I saw that he is reading all kinds of public education articles too. If this continues, he’s going to become a real house husband. You don’t understand. Men who are willing to stay at home to raise their children now are gems. We should build a fence around him to protect him.
You’ll have to pay to visit him. Understand? Where’s Xia Jun Shan? His client is waiting for him. He’s in the toilet. He has stomachache today. Yes. Mr. Xia. You are quite busy today. You are late for work and you are gone at noon. Your client has been waiting for you.
I’m really sorry, Director. Something came up in my family lately. My mother-in-law is sick. I understand. At this stage of life, you have to take care of the old and young. But I can’t help you if you waste our client’s time. I understand. I’ll try to come here earlier next time. Hurry up.
Grandma, I miss you! No! Come here. Don’t be so rough with her. It has just been one day. You are too sickly sweet. Grandma is hurt. You can’t be rough with her. Be good and I’ll cook you buttered-prawns tonight. Okay! I’ll hug her gently then. Okay. Mum. Grandma’s stomach is growling.
You are already hungry? What did you eat for lunch? What’s wrong? What’s wrong? Don’t cry. Hurry up and comfort her. -Don’t cry, Grandma. -What’s wrong? Don’t cry. Don’t cry, Grandma. Don’t cry, Grandma. Are you busy? Miss Nan, I want to ask you. What should I cook for your mum tonight?
What did she eat this afternoon? She didn’t eat much. Just half a bowl of porridge. She didn’t eat most of the dishes. How about this. Let’s not cook anything else tonight. Or else, you’ll have more leftovers. My mum doesn’t eat leftovers. Throw them away. It’ll be such a pity.
She didn’t eat much anyway. You should at least cover them out and put them in the fridge. The weather is hot. You can’t leave it out for a whole afternoon. I know. But it’s not hot today. My mom’s high in her demand. The plates that you washed are still oily.
She’ll lose her appetite. Look. I cook for dozens of families. I always wash my plates like this. They didn’t say anything at all. Why didn’t you use the gloves that I’ve prepared for you? Miss Nan. I wash my hands often every day. Look. My hands are quite clean.
Besides, I don’t have any infectious diseases. I don’t even have nail fungus. I don’t need to wear them. Besides, I can’t work with those gloves on. -Miss Nan, you… -Thank you for the hard work. You don’t have to come tomorrow. Eat a prawn. Slowly. Chao Chao, eat a prawn too. Eat it yourself.
Good boy. I’m back. Are you eating? You are back. Huan Huan is still doing her homework? She has been working hard in her room since this afternoon. She’s so diligent. Let me check on her. The housekeeping company said that they’ll send a different person tomorrow.
It’s my fault. I was too busy lately until I didn’t notice. Not only she’s not good with housework, she keeps mocking me in various ways. She has a mean mouth. Why didn’t you tell me when I called you during the day? When did you become someone who swallows insult and humiliation silently?
I’m old and useless now. I’m just lying here. I can’t help you out at all. I’ve even brought you troubles. I better die. Don’t say this kind of nonsense. This is just temporary. After a month, you’ll be as good as new. Besides, we are waiting for you to go up on stage
To steal the limelight again. Okay now. Come. Look. Grandma is eating vegetable. Look, Chao Chao. Okay. Eat a piece of vegetable too, Chao Chao. Eat it yourself. Tell me! What did you do for the whole afternoon? What’s wrong? Why are you so mad? -Huan Huan, what’s wrong? -Let her tell you herself.
What’s wrong, Huan Huan? What’s wrong? Why are you so sad? Tell me. When I sent her back this afternoon, she promised me that she’ll do her homework from Ze Shu. I reminded you and you promised, right? She just did half of a paper for the whole afternoon and so many are wrong!
I teach you every day from Monday to Thursday but it’s all for nothing, right? Don’t shout. You are scaring her. This is not the first time. She didn’t do well for the past two weeks. -Mr. Xu had to tell me about it. -Okay.
It’s awkward not only for me but for Mr. Xu too! Calm down. I’ll talk to her. Huan Huan, it’s okay. Wipe your face. It’s okay. -Stop crying! -Your dad is right. What’s the point of crying? What did you do for the whole afternoon? You have to do your homework, right?
-Tell me! -Stop shouting. Don’t act. What’s wrong, Huan Huan? What’s wrong? Look at you. Huan Huan! Come. It’s okay. It’s okay. Stop crying. Come. Let’s wipe you clean. Don’t go. Sit here. Good boy. Come. Eat. Eat here. Don’t move. They are all asleep. Chao Chao is asleep too.
Huan Huan fell asleep with an empty stomach. She just ate one of her favourite buttered-prawn. I shouldn’t have done that. I… I should’ve controlled myself better. Why was I so impulsive? I swear that this is the first time and it’ll be the last time. I won’t do it again. Alright now.
No need to lecture yourself. You look like throwing yourself off balance lately. Actually, if the family continues to be like this, Chao Chao will be affected too. You are right. I don’t know what’s wrong with me lately. Am I affected by the gravity of the moon? I’m going the other way now.
Mr. Chen’s words have affected you. So, you want to prove to everyone that our daughter is talented and smart. No matter what, you want her to keep up. I really don’t like him. What’s wrong with being a girl? -A girl can be independent too. -Yes. Don’t be so impatient.
Rome is not built in one day. Did I make the wrong decision? I cancelled her tuition class and I can’t teach her well. What if I ruin her future? You won’t. But you have to remember this. We have to communicate well when it comes to children. You just have to
Control your emotion better after this. You have to be gentle but firm. Gentle but firm. Okay now. Eat. Do you want me to feed you too? Huan Huan just ate one. Okay now. I had never talked so loudly to her. I understand. It’s okay. Baby. I promise that
This is the first time and it’ll be the last time. How’s Huan Huan? Why is her dad so angry? It’s okay. She’s a child. It’s natural for her to make a mistake. It’s normal for him to lecture her. It’s normal in others’ family. But it’s not normal in our family.
He had never been so mad before. And he had never lectured her before like this. What happened? The heart of an old father. It’s okay. He knows what he’s doing. It’ll be fine. Okay. Sleep earlier. Make sure that the blanket covers you well.
If you need anything at night, call me. I’ll come right away. Sleep now. Baby, get up. Dad. What do you want to eat for breakfast? Let me cook you some wontons, okay? I want some seaweed to go with it. No problem. Which hairpin do you want to wear today?
The one with panda on it. Look. You are amazing. You are my daughter. Of course I know you. Dad, I love you. But I think my nose is blocked. Let me see. You don’t have a fever. If you don’t feel well today, let’s take a break from school, okay?
No. I won’t be able to keep up. Okay. Dress up first. I’ll cook the wontons for you. I’ll braid your hair later, okay? Don’t catch a cold when you change. Chao Chao. Wake up, Chao Chao. Son. Wake up. Where’s your spirit? Darling, I bought breakfast. Huan Huan wants to eat wontons today.
Put in some spring onions for more flavour. It’s more appetising with some greens on it. These are not spring onions. These are the love of a father. Children are really good. They forget everything after they sleep. They don’t hold a grudge at all. Yes. There’s this saying.
Parents’ love for children comes with conditions. But children’s love and trust towards parents are unconditional. I think Huan Huan is having a cold. How did she catch a cold? Maybe she didn’t sleep well because she cried so much last night. You need to stop me if I shout at the kids again.
It’ll upset the children and I’ll feel worse. Okay. But let’s forget about this. The sun is up. Today is a new day again. I want to eat wontons too. No. Dad cooked these for me. I want to eat wontons! -I want to eat wontons! -Chao Chao.
I cooked her wontons because she is sick. I’m sick too. If you are sick. Let’s go to the hospital for an injection. It’s okay. I better eat this one then. Huan Huan. I’ll pack this cold medicine for you. If you still don’t feel well at school, go to the infirmary.
If your teacher asks you to take the medicine, do it. Okay. -Mum is done with her breakfast? -Yes. We have to ask the housekeeping company to hurry up. We are here during weekend. But the nanny has to be here by Monday. -Let me see. Are you okay? -She doesn’t have a fever.
I’m fine. Is it okay for you to be late and leave early every day? It’s okay. But our director is not pleased. He’s worried that it’ll badly affect our firm. With your position, you should be able to have a flexible working time. I can’t believe your firm.
How can you be creative if your rules are so old-fashioned? That’s right. Who am I? I’m the pillar and hope of the company. Can’t I have privilege? Right, daughter? How about we find a night nursery? -No. -No. Listen. That’s the sound of the majority. Mum, it’s me. [I know it’s you.]
[What is it?] Well… I feel embarrassed to say this. But I need to ask you for a favour. Do you think that you have time to stay in my home for a few days? Since you are asking, you should know that I can’t do that. Mum, I really have no other way.
Something urgent has happened. Listen. I’ll go to Thailand in two days’ time. I’ve pre-booked the plane tickets and hotels. I can’t get a refund. I will make it up to you. You can go later and I’ll pay for all of your expenses there. Okay?
I won’t always be in the mood to go there. Maybe after a while, I won’t want to go there anymore. [Moreover, I don’t know how long will I live.] I already told you in the first place. Take care of your own children, okay? Why did he find me at this time? Mum.
My friend knows that we are looking for nanny. So, she introduced this app to me. We just key in our requirements and the platform will find the nannies for us. Here, take a look. We don’t need the previous housekeeping company now. They couldn’t even find us new nanny after so long.
But don’t worry. This time, I’ll find you a good one. Look. I have all of my limbs intact. But I’m paralysed like a useless person. No. Stop this nonsense. It’s not good for you to always take a leave. It’s okay. We have many leaves. We can take turns. It’ll be fine.
Based on the situation right now, your mother-in-law is bedridden. For at least more than a month. Find a care worker. What are you thinking? First, a professional care worker is harder to find compared to a nanny. But most importantly, we can’t mention anything about care worker at all. I understand. A bone-deep hatred.
We are still looking for nanny now. My mother-in-law wants me to ask my mum to help us out. -Good idea. -No. I just called her this morning. As expected, she rejected me cruelly. Why? I stayed in hostel since middle school. And I chose the university that is the furthest away from home.
After that, I’m no longer close to my family. I remember that your dad passed away two years ago, right? After marrying Li Li for a few years, my dad got stroke. He was bedridden for four years. In that four years, my mum refused to let me help. She did everything by herself.
But she kept complaining while she cleaned him up. After my dad passed away, she made it clear to me that she had had enough of serving others. She had completed all of her duties. She will not stay with us and she will not help us with our children. But this is different.
This is not permanent. This is an emergency. She still rejected me in the end. My parents are very enthusiastic. They want to help me raise my child. But you know my wife. She’s like a super woman. She takes care of everything. She won’t let anyone take part in it. Cherish her.
Sometimes, I really understand her. Actually, she’s quite similar to me. We could only depend on ourselves since young to reach where we are now. We worked hard for everything. People like us really cherish our family and children. We have no way to retreat. That’s why we are very protective of what we have.
Mr. Zhong has left. I had to beg your grandpa and grandma to find this teacher for you. This teacher is awesome. He’s the God of Math Olympiad. He won’t accept bad student. If he accepts you, you have to study well, do you hear me? How was the paper just now? No bad.
What do you mean? Are there questions that you can’t do? It’s fine, I guess. Can you don’t let me worry about you? This God is our hope right now. Chao Chao, ask your sister to come and eat. Okay. Mum, time to eat. When will your mum come?
My mum has something to do in our home town. She can’t leave. They say that the children now are born by the mum, taken care by the maternal grandma while the paternal grandma will only visit for fun. Everyone wants to live for themselves. It’s so freeing and it’s such leisure.
I’m not as at ease as your mum is. The soup is here. You didn’t take the spoon. Let me get it. What’s wrong with him? Did you take his salary? I just asked him whether or not his mum can help us out. I don’t expect her to do anything.
But she can at least bring your children to and fro from school. That way, you don’t have to be so tired. You know about their relationship, right? Moreover, that mother-in-law of mine is a rare species. If she’s here, I’m worried that she’ll trouble us.
This is why I didn’t like Xia Jun Shan at first. It’s not that he’s a bad guy. It’s not that we look down on him. But he’s from a small district. Even though he went to university, found a good job and looked like he’s doing well in a major city,
He has no foundation. When you don’t have the support of your own family, once there’s a problem with your small family, you’ll see where he’s lacking. You are wrong. What era is this? Why are you still talking about the family background? Why didn’t you look for a local man back then?
You didn’t need to choose someone with good family background. You could choose someone with similar family background. At lease you would have someone to rely on. When you run into problems, at least your family can help you out. We could have gotten a house together.
That old man. What was he thinking back then? Enough. Why are you talking about this? We already have two children together, right? You shouldn’t cast away a good husband. Besides, don’t worry. We can take care of this together. One more thing. Don’t say this to him again.
Even if you don’t pity your son-in-law, my heart aches for him. You can’t always protect him. -Dad, we are hungry. -Dad, we are hungry. You can eat first. -Let them eat first. I’ll wait for you. -Okay. Do you hear that? A married daughter really sides her husband. I can’t believe you.
Actually, I called my mum. -She… -I understand. If this continues, we won’t have time to find a new nanny. I’ll take leave from the company tomorrow and start to work from home next week. But you are quite busy with the home furnishing store lately, right? It’s just for a few days.
If I can’t do that, it means that I’m a bad leader. Okay then. I’ll take care of the kids and the family. You can just take care of your mum. It’s decided then. Don’t you think we look like two people on the same boat helping each other out? We are the invincible twin.
The invincible twin. [Ms. Zhang] -Hello, Ms. Zhang. -[Hello, Huan Huan’s dad.] Can you meet me after school tomorrow? It’s about Huan Huan’s progress lately. I want to talk to you face-to-face. Okay. See you tomorrow. -Director. -Where’s Xia Jun Shan? I’m looking for him.
He said that he told you about it. He went to pick up his kid. He has to look at the situation too. He has to hand over his work before he left. His client is looking for him. Where can I find him now?
He won’t be able to leave if the client catches him, right?